I was telling my friend about all of these clothes, and he said, “Why do you still have all of those?”
“Well, I don’t know. Just hangin’ onto them” I said.
He looked me in the eye and said, “You’re hoarding.”
His words were a slap.
He was right. My husband and I were done having kids, and I just couldn’t bear to part with all those ruffles and memories.
My friend’s words burrowed deep, and I couldn’t escape them.
A few days later I pulled out a few favorite items and gave the rest of the clothing away to friends who needed the hand-me-downs. Several years later I talked to one friend who had several daughters. She said all of her girls had worn and were still wearing those clothes, and she was so thankful I had shared.
Proverbs 23:9 (NIV) says, “Don’t speak to a fool, for he will despise the insight of your words.”
I appreciate that my friend spoke words of criticism to me. I’m glad I listened to his insight and gave instead of hoarding. I don’t want to be a fool. I hope I’m never too proud and stubborn to accept a hard word and allow it to change me, even if hearing the word stings for a bit.
How do you respond to constructive criticism?