My
son and I have a discussion about making the bed. He makes his dutifully, but he wonders
why. What’s the point if I’m just going
to crawl into it again tonight? It matters! I tell him.
But
why? Why does it matter?
And
I give one of a mother’s finest answers.
It just does.
Don’t
tell him, but today I’m wondering the same thing –does it matter? All of this repeat of menial chores?
My
mind goes to Uganda, the land of red dirt.
I was mesmerized by women sweeping the red dirt from store front
steps. Does this chore really matter, if
someone is just going to tromp that red dirt up those steps again in a few
minutes?
We
visit an orphan home that is filled with love but is literally nothing but a
cement structure with some beds inside, and I see this:
In
a completely empty home –no living room furniture, no toys, no dressers full of
clothes, no kitchen cabinets, no pictures on the wall, no washer and dryer –in this
completely empty home order matters. One lone piece of paper hangs on the
wall. It’s a schedule -a
minute-by-minute schedule the orphans will follow so their day is routine and
orderly.
“She
watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of
idleness.” (Proverbs 31:27)
A
clean kitchen counter, a pile of neatly folded towels, a scrubbed toilet. These things matter because outside these
walls of our home nothing is in order.
Outside these walls there is work stress and frustrating school
experiences and rush-hour traffic. As
women we have the opportunity to create order.
Nobody notices it much, unless it’s not there, but it matters. A peaceful refuge –that’s what the mundane
chores add up to.
So
I’m going to hit “publish” on this blog and go unload the dishwasher. What mundane chore do you need to get moving
on?
Hi Christy! As a semi-newlywed (8 months) I'm still struggling to figure this out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject; I really appreciate the validity your are giving to the things that usually go unoticed and then can feel pointless. I've really beem enjoying your writing.
ReplyDelete-andee ethington
Andee -so good to hear from you! Yeah, it's really a daily challenge to remember the value of being a housewife. Every once in a while I watch the show Hoarders, which is a disturbing show! But it's good to be reminded how much the simple picking up and cleaning makes a difference over the long haul.
DeleteThanks for the encouragement about my writing! It's cool to connect with you this way. I've been married 21 years next Friday, so if you ever need advice from an old married lady, just give me a holler. :)